“He’s an adult. This is a little embarrassing”: Mother posts on Facebook group for adult son to get a job, anonymous man responds that he should do it himself

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Apr 26, 2025 1:00 PM EDT

Salutations, ladies and gentlemen. We're all familiar with the phrase, "mama's boy," but how many of us have seen it in person? Seeing it in the flesh can be nothing less than jarring and surprising. It's really a mystery why some mothers insist on treating their sons like they're still babies. Don't they know it's the least attractive thing for a woman to see a grown man who can't take care of himself or provide? The Oedipal complex is so strikingly clear that it can be even uncomfortable to watch. At a certain point, these helicopter mothers must let go of their children and let them spread their wings. 

In the story below, the protagonist is a man who saw a Facebook post from a mom about getting her grown son a job. She even mentioned in the post that he doesn't know how to drive a car. So not only is his mother trying to get a job for him, but he's at an extreme disadvantage for being able to get to and from his job, which isn't going to look good to any employer. 

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    For telling a mother to not job search for her adult son?

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    I'm in a neighborhood Facebook group, and this mother was posting about jobs and dog walking for her adult son that doesn't drive.
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  • The thing about helicopter parents is that they’re not doing their children any justice. Their children will grow up without a skillset to provide for themselves, or being able to be independent and take care of themselves. 

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    I run a big business and see this routinely were a mother will try to do all the work for her adult son. In general it's a terrible look.
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    I replied: "It would be better from the perspective of an employer to have him make his own profile and make efforts to find employment instead of his mother. It generally shows initiative and effort on his part. He's an adult. This is a little embarrassing."
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    If a grown man can't put in five. minutes to make a Facebook account and post about job opportunities and needs to rely on his mom - I just thought it was crazy out of touch. Enabling him to do less because he knows his mom will do the work for him.
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    Now I'm being slammed by all the moms in the neighborhood group chat but also being supported by a ton of other people too.
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    I run a business and I see all the mothers go extra for their sons but never had one call on behalf of their daughter. Just looks bad to employers.
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    It's odd to me that this women is perfectly fine applying for jobs for her adult son who is not dis ed mentally or physically. He's just a grown man who lets him mom apply to jobs for him.
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    Edit: this adult man is not dis ed in any way. This would be completely different interaction if he was. His only issue is that his mother spoon feeds him life.
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    FatBloke4 NTA It's telling prospective employers that the parents want their adult son/daughter to get a job but that their adult offspring can't be bothered and possibly, don't want a job at all.
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    Final_Candidate_7603 NTA. Some parents get so used to doing everything for their kids when they are kids, it's just habit. Other parents can't do the hardest thing we have to do as parents- raise them up to be good, responsible adults, and then
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    let them go out into the world. These parents want their adult children to still need them.
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    Whichever category this woman, and the moms supporting her are in, it has become so ingrained in them. that they think it's normal.
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    appleblossom1962 As a former business owner, I would never hire someone whose mother looked for the job for them. If they are too lazy to look, they are too lazy to work
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    HoshiJones NTA. To be fair, though, this might not be a case of the son being too lazy to post himself. It might be a mother who took it upon herself to post about her son.
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    For all you know, he could be applying to jobs right and left.
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    Key_Strain9931 Probably just wants his a out of the house. She created a monster by raising a spoiled little sh and now has to do all the steps to get him a job.
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    chaingun_samurai NTA. Facts don't give a f about feelings. When a prospective employer is pointing out what should be obvious, telling them they're wrong is pure stubborn stupidity.
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    Toothless Witch Definitely not the a hole. How is the grown man supposed to do the job if he can't even make the application? If he can't do the work to apply, then he can't do the
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    work for the job. If anything, the mother is the a h le for holding her son back and not teaching him how to be an adult, and do things for himself
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